Dana went on to tell me that it had all started the night before.  The kids were sent to bed as usual.  Her oldest boy was staying the night with a friend. So it was just Bobby and Lee in the room.  They hadn't been having any problems over the last couple days. But she said her friend next door came over and knocked on the door nd told her to get lee and come to her house.  That they needed to talk.  Dana said Lee was already in bed asleep.  The friend wouldn't take no for an answer.  So she went and gathered up her 8 year old son and went ot the friends house.

Once they got there, the friend told her that her son had gone over and knocked on the boy's window to say goodnight to Lee.  Something they had done every night since they moved next door.  And her son saw something going on.  It wasn't' real clear what was going on.  But it was something that shouldn't have.  And the boy came home and told his mom.

I won't go into the details of this incident.  Just to say that it was something that had to be dealt with.  Lee had been taken to the doctor and was clear of any physical damage.  But would need counseling for the mental part.  Bobby was a very manipulating and controlling person.  And to this child he was a major threat.

After we finished talking I left, and drove around town in no particular direction.  Just had to be doing something.  This situation was not sinking into my head.  It just wouldn't' go there. I didn't know how to deal with this.

I contacted the juvenile detention center and inquired about the rules and policies they had.  They told me that he was on a suicide watch for 48 hours and after that time I could visit with him. 

My first visit to the center was supervised by a guard.  He was included into the discussion we had.  According to Bobby that it was again no big deal.  But Bobby didn't realize that this could land him in  jail for awhile. This visit did nothing but frustrate me.  He had no explanation for the incident and offered no answers.

I received a phone call from the case worker that was handling the case. I set an appointment to see her.  When I first arrived, she came to the waiting area and called for me, we went to her office.  He name was Pat, and she said she had been in the family court for 15 years.  Great, now i hoped I could get some answers out of her.

After some questions, she told me she had visited with Bobby that morning.  And she told me that I had big problems with that boy. She told me that he was a sociopath, con-artist, a manipulator and wasn't' concerned about anyone except himself.  He saw this as a plot against him. And all this was caused by Dana. Because she didn't like him.

I told Pat that Bobby was a great kid as long as you didn't expect anything from him or ask him to do something. She agreed that she saw the same thing when she saw him. And she told me that this will be his first but not last time in detention.

I gave her a history of the problems we had with Bobby.  And the fact that he had been hospitalized and medicated.  But also that none of this had done us any good. That  he told counselors what they wanted to hear, and the fact that they couldn't see the side that we saw.

She agreed with me, saying that they never do.  She told me that he would to to court for this matter and wanted to know what I thought needed to be done.  I told her that I thought he needed to finally take some responsibility  for something done wrong.