For those interested in our cat.  Little Bit was taken to the vet when he didn't get any better. The vet seemed to think that he just was having a bad time adjusting to the stress around the house. A week later, we had to take him back to the vet.  He had started vomiting and wouldn't eat.  This time we choose a different vet. This one determined that he had internal damage and that there was really nothing that we could do for him. The vet couldn't say whether he would survive a operation to repair what damage had been done.  We agreed that it was best to have him put to sleep.  The vet requested to do an autopsy on him to find out exactly what was wrong with him. We said yes. A week later he called us and told us that Little Bit had blunt force damage to his liver, intestines and stomach. Most likely caused by at least one kick to his belly.

Also I wrote a letter to the mayor of  the town we lived in at the time, praising the officers that went out of their way to help us with these problems.
The letter was passed down to the Chief of Police and is in the file of all the officers that helped us. We couldn't have brought an end to this madness with out their assistance.   They had gone above and beyond the call of duty. And we thank them from the bottoms of our heart. 

Bobby turned 18 in September of 2000.  No longer a child and any wrong doings will now be handled by the adult justice system.

Some people have asked how I could turn my back on my child. The only thing I can tell those is ... you haven't been there. You don't know the hell that this so called child put us through. I usually get a disgusted look from them. I always have responded to that with ... You take him into your house for six months and then we will chat about how I turned my back on him.

It comes down to simple survival.  I love my son, but I don't like and don't have to tolerate his behavior. There comes a time when you have to protect yourself and your family.  And society has to learn that there has to be help for these parents with violent children.  Most of these kids are not from bad parents. And it is not always caused by chemical imbalances, or physical ailments, and mental illness. There are kids out there that are just plain bad kids.

As there is more loss of parental ability to discipline their children, there will be more children like Bobby. I can honestly say that we tried everything, from time outs to spending more quality time, and everything in between.  This is not my fault, and I  refuse to take responsibility for his behavior. He could be a good kid. I have seen that in him. But he chooses to do differently.

One other little note. Our daughter was born two weeks after Bobby was arrested.  She was four weeks early and weighted only four pounds and nine and a half ounces.  Over all she was healthy, some minor problems that cleared themselves up with in  a few days. She is now a happy toddler.

On the next page you will find a poem that I wrote for Bobby. It is called Dreams for You. This is all I am able to do for him. And that is truly sad.